DEALING WITH A LOSS

At some point in life, we lose family members, friends and loved ones. It’s difficult to deal with the reality of not hearing from them or seeing them again. Of course you’d be sad or angry but it won’t be forever. As part of the healing process, there are some practical things that help you calm your nerves or make you feel a bit better, if not completely.

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1. Allow yourself to feel sad. Feeling sad is part of the healing remedy and it’s okay to be sad. The book of Ecclesiastes makes us know that there’s a season for everything. Thus, a time to be happy and a time to be sad.

2. Grieving when you have children. It’s sometimes okay to feel sad or cry in front of your children. Let them know that life’s journey won’t be always smooth and assure them that comfort comes from God. Keep an eye on your child if he or she wants to share his or her feelings through singing, drawing or writing.

3. Express yourself. To begin the healing process, sometimes it’s good to talk to people about your feelings. Be it a friend, family member, counsellor or health professional. Visit a therapist if there’s a need. You’re the only one who knows when you’re ready.

4. Eat well. A balanced diet and drinking a lot of water will help you cope with the emotional stress. According to the National Health Service(NHS) in UK, avoid things that “numb” the pain, such as alcohol where it’ll make you feel worse once the numbness wears off.

5. Return to your hobbies and keep up your routine. Go back to the activities that keep you busy or happy; housechores, reading, listening to music, playing an instrument, watching comedy shows etc.

Apart from these practical things, you have to make a conscious effort to be happy. You’re the only one responsible for your happiness. You can’t be sad forever. The Holy Spirit is our comforter and advocate. Therefore, be rest assured that you’re guided. Jesus loves you ❤

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