SOMETIMES, ASK

It’s not always magical for someone to recognize you from afar and give you an offer. Whether it’s a job, contract, gig, etc.

Develop the habit of asking. You’ll be surprised that something you’ve wanted for so long will be made readily available to you within a split second, just by asking.

People might think you received what you have through dubious means. From Paul Angone’s best-selling book, “101 secrets for your twenties”, keep in mind that “embarrassment thrives in the petri dish of “what will others think?”

If you have that mindset and hence, reject what might be your biggest blessing, you may not get that opportunity again.

Don’t expect someone to assume that you’re in need of something. It doesn’t always work that way.

Ask for it. Do the follow-ups. Knock on that door. The worst that can happen is a “no” but be persistent. Keep pushing.

“Better to try and fail than not to try at all.” ~ Nicole Krauss

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AFFIRMATIONS

Words of affirmations are really strong but underrated.
Words of affirmations can get you whatever you wish for when you work towards them.
In general, the tongue is a powerful tool.

If you say to yourself, “I’ll be successful”, you will definitely be successful.
If you also say to yourself , “I’m not good enough and I can’t do it. Even people say I’m a dullard so there’s no need to say anything good about myself” darling, you will never make it. Know this;
1. People’s opinions about you don’t matter (cliché but true). They’ll only matter when you don’t work on yourself to debunk those negative words.
2. You are too special not to have the good things life has to offer.

Before death, there’s life. So live wisely while life lasts.

Here are some words of affirmations I love. Remember that, whatever you feed your mind with, you become.

THE POWER OF SILENCE

Silence is a very powerful tool for communication. It saves you from shame. How? Saying something you’re not sure of. Saying something for people to know that you’re an “updated person”. Search for the truth before you spit out the lie or it’s even best not to say anything at all. Also, it’s easy to talk back when someone provokes you. Replying the person in a harsh way doesn’t make you different from him or her. You’re just the same. If you feel you have to reply your opponent, you can do that gently. Otherwise, hold your peace. Sometimes, silence is all you need to prove yourself. It’s unnecessary to talk back especially in cases where profane words are used. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you’ll regret for saying something you can’t take back. It’s painful when people get hurt. They’re humans too. Talking from experience, learn to be silent in the heat of an argument (Message me if you want to know more 😉). It calms you down and helps you to deeply reflect on your act. Learn to apologise when you’re at fault; whether silent or not. It prevents more quarrels from arising. Some people say quiet people are more dangerous when there’s a squabble 😂. Well, it doesn’t apply to everyone. Master the art of knowing when to be silent dear. Make use of it.

ARE YOU CONFUSED ABOUT YOUR CURRENT STATUS?

Are you learning a course because someone is also doing it? Are you reading it because you’re being forced to do it? It’s okay not to realise your dream at the younger age. Some people realized their dreams after university and they’re really doing well. All you need to do is focus, work hard and involve God in your doings because without Him, nothing is possible. Sometimes it’s good to try different skills. You’ll definitely find something you love. Don’t entertain any form of negativity from anyone. Rebuke them immediately even if it’s in public. Remind yourself everytime that; “I am worth living”, “I can make it”, “No one can stop me”, “Someone somewhere is waiting for my positive impact”, “I am strong”, “I am powerful”, “I can do it”, “I will do it”, “I’m not a disgrace”.
Surround yourself with people who speak positivity. Read motivational messages, watch motivational videos and listen to good music. Go out there and make a difference. The world awaits you!

DO GOOD GRADES GUARANTEE SUCCESS IN LIFE?

I’ve seen similar picture quotes concerning this title a number of times and I’ve also decided to air my views on it.

Getting a job these days is not only as a result of good academic qualifications. Some people are knowledgeable when it comes to education but are average when it comes to hands on experience and vice versa.

Everyone is going to school because they want to be educated or because their parents forced them or because their friends are in school. That’s okay but remember, not everything is taught in school. There are lots of free online courses to build your skills.

You can be intelligent in all subject areas but lack morals, good attitude, respect, humility. These virtues can take you farther than your education. I’m not saying education is not important. It is and when you have these virtues, you’re good to go. Don’t let anyone discourage you. The fact that you’re an average student and always having bad grades doesn’t mean you can’t be successful in other areas of your life.

There’s something you’re good at; find it, focus on it, work towards it and make good use of it only if it’s a positive one. Remember, success comes only when you have a positive mind to do what you really want to do.

DO NOT BE AFRAID OF FAILURE

These days, most people are eager to achieve success without going through any form of difficulty. How is that possible?

For me, failure is sweet 😂 even though it is terrible. The sweetest part of it is when you learn your lesson, take it seriously and apply it in your next opportunity. The end result is fantastic.

Of course people will talk about you, say negative things, laugh at you, mock you and so on. Allow them. Do not retaliate. They will be the same people to come for help and when they do, please lend a helping hand. Learn to embrace challenges. They help you grow. They make you stronger than you think.

STOP TAKING SHORTCUTS! Pass through the mud and come out successfully “dirty”. Have you failed that paper? Retake it! Failed that job interview? Reapply! Easier said than done, right? Worry not! God always sees our struggles and shows up even at unexpected times. Life won’t be smooth always. DON’T. GIVE. UP.

BE PATIENT FOR YOUR FUTURE

Life is not a race. Stop comparing yourself to people who have achieved their goals. Your time is coming. It is just a matter of patience. Pray, work hard and see the good in every situation. No matter how difficult the situation is, stay positive and believe in yourself. Something good is coming. Wait for it!